
Steve Carrell as Michael Scott by Art.
If you’ve spent a day in leadership training, you may have had the same experience as I have. There’s a lecture on how to manage people, maybe some less than scientific personality psychology thrown in, a couple of group exercises, and the day ends with putting together a list of things that make a good leader.
Maybe after your training day you went online or picked up a book and found some more examples of good leadership qualities. If you did, you probably ended up with a list as long as your LinkedIn feed. Now, as an inspired leader of people, you make an effort to apply what you’ve learned in your work. Pretty soon, you’re likely to find that navigating human interaction with the help of lists is not the best idea.
The problem with the kind of paint-by-numbers leadership that is promoted by saying that “If you do these things, you’ll be a good leader” is that it doesn’t work. You can’t concentrate on ten things that make a leader when you’re listening someone telling you about his or her perceived mistreatment, chronic illness or failed relationship.
Making an effort when managing people is absolutely necessary, and to do it well, you need an idea of what good leadership looks like. Lists or any other format of advice can definitely help in this, but you need to be able to take the advice and turn it into something very simple that you can hold onto in everyday situations. In my opinion, most advice on managing people can be summed up with “Don’t be an asshole!”
“Don’t be an asshole!”
If you concentrate on trying to be a good person just like most people do when they’re with their family and friends, you have a good chance of being an effective leader as well. This doesn’t mean that you go out of your way to please people, but it does mean that you listen to them, try to see their point of view and treat them with respect. Neither does this mean that you avoid hard decisions. On the contrary, if you’re making an effort to be a good person, you’re most likely relying on a set of morals that force you to act when action is needed.
Maybe “Don’t be an asshole!” doesn’t resonate with you. Maybe it’s something else. It may be a role model, a person that you consider a good leader, and when you’re unsure of what the right course of action is, you try to think what that person would do in your situation. Also, morals are not always enough to make the right decisions, and you have to be aware of your motives as well. If you refuse to cause undue harm while genuinely trying to do what’s best for your company, you’re most likely making the best decisions you can.
I would go as far as saying that whether you’re a leader or a manager or not, for the most part, it’s enough to not be an asshole. If you need a list of ten things that make you not an asshole, then so be it.